Hey Friends,
When I started The Advocate Next Door, I wanted a space to share the thoughts I don’t often say out loud—a place to grow, reflect, and connect…. annnnd obsessively talk about civics… because it’s so cool. 🤓 But honestly? I didn’t think anyone would care.
And now? Every time I meet someone who subscribes, I’m amazed (and, if I’m being honest, a little mortified—because, really? OMG. You subscribed to me?). But here we are. And here you are. And I’m SO ridiculously grateful.
Okay, so this year, nearly 600 of you joined this community, and together, we raised $859.67 for gender equity. (Can I get a whoop, whoop!) That money is going to the Women’s Fund of Central Ohio—an organization whose mission is to transform the lives of women and girls by mobilizing the collective power of all people. This donation matters because this organization was one of the first to show me the power of democratizing philanthropy—that every single dollar, whether it’s $5 or $5 billion, represents a choice to care. And that choice? It deserves celebration.
So, thank you. For showing up. For believing in this space. For proving that small actions create ripples we don’t always see.
Now, here are five lessons from this year that I hope will inspire you, too.
1. Stop Pretending You Don’t Need People
We all like to act like we’ve got it together—deadlines handled, houses clean (ha!), emotions in check (ooooo). But here’s the truth: We’re starving for connection.
This year taught me that community doesn’t just happen. It’s something we choose to build. It’s texting a friend, asking for help, saying yes to that neighbor who keeps inviting you over. Connection isn’t a luxury—it’s the thread holding us together.
👉 Learn how to build your “civic superglue”
2. Advocacy Starts Small
Advocacy doesn’t require a megaphone. It starts with listening—really listening—to your community, your neighbors, and most importantly, your own damn voice.
This year, I realized how easy it is to feel paralyzed by big problems. But when we focus on one small act—a phone call, a donation, a conversation—we create ripples that matter. Small actions add up.
👉 Read about starting small and staying present
3. Gurl, Burnout Isn’t Brave
Here’s what I wish someone had told me years ago: Burnout isn’t brave. Rest isn’t selfish—it’s an act of resistance.
This year, I finally embraced rest as part of my work. I said no to things that didn’t align with my purpose. I leaned into walks in the woods, naps, and nights of guilt-free reading. And guess what? Everything else became more sustainable. So, gurl, take that nap. 👏
4. Small Actions Change the World
Movements don’t start with million-dollar checks or viral campaigns. They start with small, consistent actions: writing an email to a representative, showing up for a community event, or having that awkward conversation.
This year, I stopped waiting for “ready” and started showing up a little unapologetically raw and real. Because here’s the truth: The world doesn’t need you polished—it needs you present.
5. Civics Is a Journey, Not a Checklist
This year, I taught nonprofit organizing at The Ohio State University’s John Glenn College. I thought I’d be the one teaching, but I ended up learning.
Civics isn’t about checking boxes. It’s about moving from “What can I do?” to “What can we do?” It’s about understanding our full, messy history and using it to shape a better future.
People like Pauli Murray remind me that civics is alive. It’s something we grow with, not something we master.
A Thought to Carry Forward
A few weeks ago, I watched my daughter create homemade gift certificates for her uncle—little tickets for things like making popcorn, lemonade, and slime together. She didn’t need a big occasion or fancy supplies. She just wanted more time with him.
That’s what this year has reminded me, too: When it comes to civics, the most meaningful things aren’t grand or complicated. They’re small, intentional actions—a moment of care and a choice to show up.
So, thank you. For being here, for showing up, and for believing that small actions can spark big change. As we head into 2025, let’s keep building something beautiful together—one thoughtful moment at a time.
Cheering for you always,
Sophia
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