🍋 Issue #2 | The C-Word That Really Matters
Redefining Civics, Building Bridges, and Finding Strength in Connection
Hello, Friends!
First things first—OMG, thank you. Seriously—thank you. Your enthusiasm, support, and interest in Coffee & Lemonade have completely blown me away. As a practitioner in civic engagement, I always knew there was a tribe of mothers who give a damn—moms who care deeply and are ready to make a bold impact in their communities. And guess what? You’re those amazing people! (Huzzah!) I’m beyond excited to grow this mission together. So, from the bottom of my heart, thank you. You all are the best!
☕️Morning Brew
The C-Word
Alright, friends, let’s dive into the C-word. And nope, not that C-word—I’m talking about civics. Why does everything connected to civics feel so icky, overwhelming, and (quite frankly) boring? And I say this as someone who’s literally obsessed with studying civics. But here’s the deal: even when I stumble upon something interesting, it still feels like watching C-SPAN in the age of TikTok. It’s dry, and it freaking sucks.
And if that’s how I feel about civics, I can’t imagine it’s much fun for you either. Civics has turned into this chore you have to do, rather than something you want to do. It’s like the never-ending pile of mismatched socks in a house full of busy kids and exhausted parents. You know, the kind that just keeps growing… and growing… and GROWING… while you’re trying to juggle school drop-offs, work deadlines, dinner prep, and maybe—just maybe—a quiet moment to yourself.
Let’s face it, civics has earned its rep as the #BroccoliOfAdulting. But, does it have to be this way?
So, What is Civics, Really?
Civics is more than just a set of tactics or chores—it’s about YOU. Civics isn’t just a dusty concept from your high school government class; it’s the art of how we, as people, live together, make decisions, and build the kind of communities we want to be part of. According to Merriam-Webster, civics is all about the rights and duties of citizens in relation to their government. But here’s the thing: we’ve been so focused on the steps, we forgot about the people taking them. It’s not just about knowing the rules—it’s about living them out in a way that feels meaningful.
Introducing Civic Wellness
This is where civic wellness comes into play. Civic wellness is all about actively participating in and contributing to the health of your community. It’s the understanding that your actions and voice do matter, and they can shape the social and political landscape around you. Civic wellness is the heartbeat of a vibrant, functioning democracy. When we engage in civic activities—whether it’s voting, volunteering, or standing up for a cause we believe in—we’re not just checking off a box. We’re creating a sense of belonging, purpose, and shared responsibility. This is what turns civics from a chore into a source of joy and fulfillment.
Want to know more? Check out my article about civics as the superglue of democracy.
So, Why Does Civic Wellness Matter?
Look - I’m on a mission. A mission to turn civics from a boring chore into a meaningful, life-giving practice that benefits us all. Are you with me? If so, feel free to share this newsletter with a friend.
🍋 Daily Boost
The Nice Trap: Are You Nice or Good?
Let’s talk about the concept of being “nice.” It’s a word that often gets tossed around as a compliment, but what does it really mean? And is it always a good thing? Recently, Viola Davis shared a statement that resonated deeply with me: “My life got better when I realized I didn't have to be nice. Nice got me ran over, stressed out, and disrespected. I'm not nice. I'm a good person. There's a difference.”
This got me thinking—how do we balance being kind without losing our self-respect? As someone who’s often labeled “nice,” I’m curious—what do you think? What are your thoughts on this statement?
"My life got better when I realized I didn't have to be nice. Nice got me ran over, stressed out, & disrespected. I'm not nice. I'm a good person. There's a difference."
📚Book Buzz
Bowling Alone by Robert Putnam
Bowling Alone by Robert Putnam digs into the decline of community in America, showing how we've drifted apart over the years. This book is a wake-up call about the importance of community and what we lose when we disconnect. Nearly 25 years old and still incredibly relevant today, this book brings to life every issue I’ve experienced in my nearly 20 years of community work, backed by solid data. As a political scientist, I’m obsessed with Putnam’s work and his mission to rebuild the social fabric of our society. If you’re curious about how we got here and what it means for our future, this is a must-read.
Unbought and Unbossed by Shirley Chisholm
Unbought and Unbossed is Shirley Chisholm’s unapologetic account of her groundbreaking journey as the first Black woman in Congress. She’s fearless, candid, and committed to shaking up the status quo. She is a boss. This book isn’t just about politics—it’s about standing your ground and fighting for what’s right, even when the odds are against you. I love her fearless and candid commitment and often wonder if her Quaker-lite* upbringing influenced her dedication to justice. If you need a dose of inspiration and a reminder of what true leadership looks like, pick this one up.
🎶Tunes of the Week
"Piece of My Heart" - Melissa Etheridge
"You Can Call Me Al" - Simon & Garfunkel
✍️Deep Brew: Finding Courage in the Divide
My latest article, “Deep Brew: Finding the Courage to Bridge Divides,” dives into the uncomfortable truth of loving those whose values clash with our own. It’s so tempting to turn away when our beliefs are under fire - and especially when it’s someone who you love. But, maybe real strength comes from leaning into that discomfort and choosing connection anyway. This piece challenges us to rethink how we engage with the people closest to us—especially when their views seem to undermine everything we stand for.
So, how do we foster genuine empathy and build those bridges in our own lives? Give it a read, and let me know your thoughts.
📝Action Steps
Redistricting in Ohio: Want to make a real impact? Get involved in the fight for fair representation with Citizens Not Politicians.
Gender and Wealth Survey: Your voice matters. If you live in Central Ohio, help The Women’s Fund of Central Ohio reach 2,700 responses by sharing your experience in our research survey. Take the Survey.
Aging in Central Ohio: Curious about what the future holds? Watch this eye-opening forum from the Columbus Metropolitan Club on Retirement Readiness.
🌈 Let's Chat!
Have questions about how to get started in civic wellness or want to dig deeper? Ask me anything. I’m here to help!
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xoxo-
Sophia